Domestic Violence Affects Men Too

In today’s society it is common to only think of domestic abuse as affecting women, however, statistically speaking there are far more men being abused. The difference is that men are far less likely to report such abuse for one reason or another.

For me, speaking from experience, I was in an abusive relationship around ten years ago. She would stop me from talking to certain friends, she would constantly want to know who was texting and ringing my phone, she would even go through messages to make sure that I wasn’t being “Naughty with other girls.”

We didn’t officially live with each other, she had a flat somewhere and I had my own, but she wanted to be with me 24 hours a day, so when I wasn’t staying at hers she would be staying at mine. I remember her staying at my flat one night and I was speaking with the next door neighbour – who was a woman – I looked up at my spare bedroom window in horror as I saw her watching me talk to her. When she saw me she moved away from the window and I had to quickly wrap up my conversation with the woman. I walked up the stairs in dread as I didn’t know what she was going to say or do. We had an argument and she put her fist through my bedroom door.

I moved from my flat to another one around the corner and at the time I had to have mental health staff from the NHS visit me on a regular basis. It was on such a day that they were due to come round that my Girlfriend wanted to check my phone, I had no choice but to let her and she didn’t like what she saw. An argument ensued which resulted in her assaulting me so bad that blood began to drip from the side of my head. The NHS Staff came in to witness the aftermath of the assault. Whilst I was being seen to be the staff, she packed up things in my flat. She even took food knowing that I had no money to replace it.

I was embarrassed by the whole thing and didn’t want to get her into trouble at the time so I never reported it. Shortly afterwards I split up with her for good but she gave me a dire warning, that if I didn’t reconsider there would be consequences, but I shrugged it off. It’s been ten years and this woman still tried to control me and do damage to my life one way or the other. It’s a desperate situation that I have been subjected to.

The point of this is that men need to recognise and report the signs of domestic abuse. Do not fall into the way of thinking that it is embarrassing. If you are suffering from domestic abuse you should report it. There are a number of places you can get help.

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/help-for-men-who-are-being-abused.htm

https://www.webmd.com/balance/features/help-for-battered-men#1

https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help

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Jealousy Is Such An Ugly Thing…

Yesterday I found the reason why my website traffic had a boom. It is because of some troll army coming on here. They are mocking me, but I don’t care, because of them my bank balance has increased. It all started when I posted a picture of an old version book cover to Mage Of Magic. I was asking for opinions, but instead I got viciously attacked, by admins of the group no less.

I found a forum post by one of those admins (I’ll assume) at this address – https://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3846956&pagenumber=1

Where they assault my work under the veil of anonymity. The truth of the matter is, I really don’t care what Jealous people think of my work. The statistics speak for themselves. I have amassed a huge following of more than 30,000 fans and that number rises everyday.

As for the original post on that site, Mage Of Magic may seem redundant if you don’t know the prologue. In the fantasy world of Valusia, not all Mages are inherently magic users. They are academics, forgers of mystical weaponry, healers and so on. As for the game, I have never created poo to stab at. This is a blatant fabrication, probably to draw more attention to the lady’s otherwise boring and pointless post.

I do hope that these trolls keep posting about me and my work, as I find it hilarious to say the least. Plus you are just feeding my bank account by visiting my website. So by all means, keep bashing away at your computers, laptops and phones. And as for blocking me on the Facebook group where I originally posted, thanks. It proves my point entirely.


Is Social Media Making People Anti-Social?

Everyday, millions of people go online to chat and share things they find interesting, but a staggering number of people no longer communicate face to face and a lot don’t even know how to without the use of their phones or gadgets.

Why are we communicating less in person? Is it because we have fully adapted to the social media age? Or is it simply that we no longer know how to?

Over the years I have witnessed a drop in face-to-face communication. I have seen people sitting in social environments with their heads in buried their phones. Is this mental illness, I often wonder, or is this a new age of communication? An age where nobody talks to each other unless it is via some gadget.

I have seen people go to visit others – like grandparents etc. – and ignore them completely for whoever or whatever is on their phone. This is an epidemic among, not just young adults, but children too, and if this continues we will see a generation of people who do not know how to communicate with other humans and society will devolve into a primitive state.

We must encourage our children to use these gadgets less. We must also practice what we preach!